The seventh episode of our series in which Ben Johnson is joined by Neil Atkinson, Rob Gutmann and Paul Cope to respond to YOUR problems…
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Ben Johnson’s Agony Hour: Episode Seven
This is a situation I need advice on. It’s a bit shit
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 9/10 years. Now we are both approaching 40 years old. When we got together she was very clear that she wanted kids and I assumed it would happen to me too, I assumed nature would takeover and the urge to procreate would consume me as well. And well now it has, but now she’s gone past it. She’s adamant she doesn’t want kids, that she doesn’t want to be an old mum at 50 with a 10 year old, or have a long IVF thing with no guarantee of a successful outcome that could be emotionally and financially costly. One of our friends has 2 kids that have been diagnosed with autism and they’re having a terrible time. The thing was she was so keen before that when she got drunk it was a toss of a coin whether it got brought up or not, and we would row, and we broke up for over a year about it back in 2013, but I was adamant I wasn’t ready. And I wasn’t. Now though she says we have a good life, and is happy not to bring kids into it. But it’s getting me down a bit, I had to delete my Facebook account because too many of my friends are posting pictures of themselves with their kids.
I don’t know if we’ve ruined each other’s lives by making each other miss out on the biggest life experience, and I don’t know how to reconcile being say 40 to 70 years old knowing the chance has passed you by.