SOME years ago I was living in London and I started dating this girl I’d met at work. We hit it off immediately and as the months went by we saw more and more of each other. At some point we figured it made sense to move in with each other. For starters I was staying at her place virtually every night, and it also made no sense to be paying two separate rents at London prices.
For a while things were great; electrifyingly good. We started thinking about a future together. Tentatively at first, but then more seriously as time went by and we realised we worked well together. Everyone really liked her and a long-term future seemed to make perfect sense.
Eventually, though, cracks started to appear. She’d get annoyed if I didn’t close the cupboard doors. I’d get pissed off that she didn’t just close the cupboard doors herself if it annoyed her that fucking much.
We still had good days, of course, days when we’d have a laugh together, or do something fun and exciting. But underneath it all we knew that that idyllic future we’d envisaged together, that we’d come so close to achieving, was moving further away from us.
We’d try to recapture the magic moments we’d shared at the start of our relationship. The golden moment after we’d got through the initial nerves of getting to know each other, but before we knew each other too well. We couldn’t, though. In the bad times, when we’d argued, too much was said. There was too much bad blood between us.
The more that time went on in this state of unease, the more it became clear that we really needed to make a choice. Were we going to carry on regardless, hoping that at some point we could reclaim our earlier happiness? Or were we going to accept that we’d never get it back, and it was time for us both to move on?
It was tricky, of course, because we still had feelings for each other. We’d made each other incredibly happy when things were at their best. Plus, our friends and family didn’t understand what had gone wrong. Plenty of people were keen for us to make it work. It wasn’t as simple as everyone being against our relationship and wanting it to end.
But the questions remained. Would we ever be able to make it work properly? After getting to a point that things were so fractured and tense between us, would we ever truly love each other in that same manner that had been so refreshing and exciting just months before?
There’s never an easy solution when relationships start to break down. Once you start to ask serious questions about whether or not you’re with the right person, it’s difficult to ever get the joy back.
You might have good times, of course. A moment or two when the painful and difficult questions are forgotten about. But as soon as you have a bit of difficulty, or you accidentally do the wrong thing, the old doubts come flooding back.
You sit and ask yourself, why am I doing this? Why am I trying to force something that isn’t there any more? You want the good times back. Nothing would be easier than for you to re-find the joy and wonderment of the early days. But how long do you keep going for? How long do you plough on trying the same old things despite it being useless? What if the good times don’t come back?
Then, of course, you notice other people. They seem exciting and different. Without meaning to or wanting to you daydream about what life would be like with them. And when you daydream, you never think about the bad times. Your happy visions of the future don’t extend to when things with the new person have stopped working, grown stale.
All you can think about is how brilliant everything will be with this new person. How the things that you enjoyed so much with your old partner, that you’ve now lost, will come flooding back. You got so close to achieving the happiness you’ve longed for, surely you’ll be able to find it with this new person?
So what do you? Do you say to your partner, thanks for everything, I had a blast, but it’s time to move on? Or do you give it a little more time? Do you resist the temptations of the new in the hope that what you once had can be found again?
John Lennon apparently once said, “the grass isn’t greener, there’s just more grass”. Endless, endless grass. Sometimes the grass you know is better than the grass you think you want. Sometimes moving to pastures new helps you push on that extra step.
Whether you think you should plough on regardless or look to someone new, it’s always, always a leap of faith. So, which one’s right for you?
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Nice work Adam. I’m going for the greener grass, it could be the greatest, greenest grass in the world, or it could be hay. The former gives you clover.
There comes a time when you just know it’s time to take that step over the fence onto the greener grass before the grass on your side has deteriorated to a state of disrepair.
If Klopps available (or someone of his ilk) get him if not then stick for another year.
If we stick and he doesn’t get top 4 then get rid.
NO, JUST NO, NO, NOOOOO!!!! RODGERS OUT FIRST.. ANY MANAGER COULD DO MUCH BETTER THAN THIS CLOWN!
Unless you’ve got a shed load of money and can pay top whack for the best astro turf money can buy it may be better to stop pissing around with the sodding grass and let it do what it should do naturally – let it grow.
Let it take root, get strong, find the right balance and hopefully it will flourish give you the right amount of time.
Bore off, BR OUT NOW!!!!
Grass is a very successful organism. It’s out fought the mighty trees to colonise the planet. It is perennial. Its growth vigorous and long lasting. When mowed down it returns. When left to grow and die naturally fertile soils are created. In grass we trust….
Quite possibly my favourite ever TAW post.
Well done.
I’m afraid Klopp will be become a metaphor for last season.
We all finally convinced ourselves that YES we can win the title, and then Stevie stumbled at the crucial moment as the thing was tantilisingly within our grasp.
Then we were left with the bitter reality of close but no cigar, same again.
As with Klopp. We’re all convincing ourselves Klopp’s the man. Tantilisingly close.
But he’ll turn us down.
And then we’re lumbered with second place again for another season.
I dont care who manages us, anyone but Rodgers!!! HE IS GONE
You also used caps lock so you must be correct.
If FSG is serious about it all then Klopp won’t turn us down. If we find out Klopp turns us down it will be because FSG nickel and dime’d him. Meaning they weren’t willing to bin the transfer committee, as one example.
I like grass jelly
Hay is dry grass.
Funnily enough, this was an exchange I had with my mate yesterday. I apologise if this sounds vulgar by the way…
Him: He deserves next year. You don’t bin a bird before you defo know she’s going to be shit in bed
Me: You’ve been going out with her for three years. Plenty of time to form an opinion. Year one: Not bad in bed, with the occasional flashes of brilliance but overall, a bit disappointing. Year two: superb for the most part but this is mainly down to an outstanding sex toy which is bought at Christmas that makes things amazing. Almost perfect. Year three: Sex toy is no more. This reflects badly on performance in the sack and I’m left in no doubt that the girl is average in bed and the sex toy was the exciting component of the relationship. Time for a new girlfriend
I dont care about this nonsense, anyone with an ounce of football knowledge could not possibly ask to give him another year, he does NOT deserve it at all!! NOTHING he has done this season suggests that, 50 other reasons (ATLEAST) sugest he should go now!!!
THe only ones who want to keep BR are possibly mancs, bitter blueshites, gooners and so on, impossible that they are hardcore REDS like me travelling around the world to support..they can sod off! I Want to win the league before i die, keeping this clown in charge nothing good will come of it!
“sod off” – i see what you did there..
Very clever Mr hardcore red.
Hardcore? Because i am hurting and cant take this garbage he is calling ”outstanding” anymore? Alrighty ;)
Says you’re man who is happy for ANYONE to manage Liverpool except Rodgers?
Benitez out, Hodge in……..
You were one of that lot I bet.
not really, just Brendan out, if you cant see that even you can do better with this squad of players something is seriously wrong with the basic football knoweldge of the BR lovers…I didnt watch liverpool under woy so your thinking is flawed, what a sh*t load of f***
Will you watch us next season Mr Hardcore when BR is still in charge..? Or you gonna give up your season ticket..?
He won’t be in charge ToeH..And if i had a season ticket i would never give it up..Sadly i pay alot of money to watch this dross :/
This is one of my favourite analogies. We played.
IF Sackho and Lucas stayed fit and Skytel doesn’t get that ban, it’s a different story.
Gerrard and Lucas should have started against United. That was Brendens biggest mistake.
All our best play came from Sackho bringing the ball out and finding someone and Henderson being able to join knowing Lucas is there to cover. Lucas and Henderson were far greater than the sum of their parts for about 10 games. Without Lucas, Henderson becomes a diluted version of the player we need him to be. He did. A defensive midfielder is probably the most important element to an all out attacking team!
Lucas and Sackho stay fit. Gerrard starts v United thus Skrtel doesn’t get a ban. It’s completly different!
That wasn’t what happened though. Like every other club, we had some important players who were not available. We have won loads of games, over the years, against clubs who were down to the bare bones with their squads.
We signed a striker that turned out to be as much use as a chocolate fireguard, but United signed Falcao who was arguably even less effective. Van Persie has been crocked/unfit/past it for the whole campaign.
Their manager has persuaded less-celebrated players to step-up and find a way to get the job done. Players we were laughing at last season.
If all of our players were fit, you could just tell our best XI to go out, enjoy themselves and play their natural game. That would probably be enough to win the majority of matches.
A top manager has to make-do with what he’s got and find a way to succeed, somehow.
At one point wasn’t LVG playing two academy kids at fullback? Paddy McNair I know was one.
You forgot to mention that Man U could “make-do” paying breaking the bank for Angel Di Maria, Juan Mata, Falcao and even Luke Shaw. Di Maria literally laughed off a connection to us in the summer – when we were in the CL and Man U were definitely not – because we’d never pay anything close to his wages.
People have this strange fantasy that Klopp will have access to all kinds of players that Rodgers cannot get. Simply not true. You can write in caps lock til your fingers bleed, but FSG are not going to change the model and Klopp is not some sort of wizard from Harry Potter world.
The money would be much better spent on a top striker that fits our system. Rodgers has built a strong side that really only needs an injection of goals up top to be back “in the conversation.”
This Mido chap is getting a bit worked up..
Maybe he won’t read this message if I don’t mention that Rodgers should stay..
are you seriously telling me you are not worked up and a bit worried if BR stays in charge??? buys another 7-8 players who we dont need and keep blaming everyone and everything but himself? Brendan needs to go..End of, he has failed miserably
Hull was the last straw.
I prefer to just sleep around, kicking even those who have performed well out of bed just for the hell of it. It seems to work for Real Madrid, too.
I read this whilst humming this in my head…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6ZDsUGiGqM
I then re-read it with the real thing in play
everyone should give it a go..
Haha
A lot of people have that need to search in life and some are content with what they’ve got. I like to keep searching. I’m rarely content with my lot. If nothing else it’s far more exciting to search. Recently, I’ve started to think more and more about eating some new grass (the thought of a whole new field sounds like my wildest dreams come true. Sometimes I wish I was Saudi or a Mormon) The problem is, once you taste there’s no going back. You have to be sure. I think I’m in a place where I can’t lose. Whether it’s continuity or change I’ll embrace it. I’m not really concerned either way. One things for sure, I can’t go on like this. The last month’s been a nightmare. My content side tells me things will improve but my other side tells me you only get 1 life. Years are going by fast and although I couldn’t give a fuck about the cupboard door being open, I am concerned that it’s empty inside.
P.s In relation to your article, if a women starts moaning unnecessarily then the answer is always to bin them, regardless. I always used to do that and eventually ended up with someone who doesn’t moan unnecessarily. Been 21 years so far.Maybe the right man is out there for you (manager that is). Just got to find him.
I always remember my grandad saying something really vulgar to me and for years I didn’t understand what he meant. I never got the chance to ask him in adulthood but he said ‘son, never marry a woman who’s belly is bigger than her tits. I found it offensive but I’ve got a feeling he meant never settle for second best. Maybe there’s some truth in that.
Have you stalked her on Facebook, see all the photo’s of her having a great time………….
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That’ what I’m like with Rafa, Alonso, Macherano n Suarez
My worry is that 210 million later we are actually doing worse than his 1st season here, points wise
The squad seems as bare as before in terms of lack of quality, and the starting XI has actually regressed
So unless we pour some more money into it, it ain’t gonna get fixed. But he’s already had 210 mil, how can you trust him with more cash? Yes TC and all that, but he himself said he has the first and final say on the players.
FSG are businessmen, surely they would take the least kindly to what they deem as being a complete waste of their money. They would expect better returns outta their investment
Spot on :)
The hypergamous football fan. How depressing. Klopp won’t make a scap of difference…
Tell me, are you psycic? that is the only way on earth you would know klopp wouldn’t make a diffrence..He would attract better players and best of all he would be able to beat dross like Hull,Sunderland,Liecster,Villa,Blackburn,Bolton,Middlesboro,Basel and i won’t even get started with the away games, its fans like you who have made Liverpool football club what it is today, a laughing stock…Yeah lets stick with faliure and keep rewarding mediocrity while the likes of Chelsea and Man City change managers like players and keep on winning trophies, you are stuck in the 70s lad, wake up and smell the coffee..BR is a looser, Klopp is a winner going by that alone we will NOT see Klopp at Anfield next season, i have spoken to people at the club who literlally said they would give their left arm and right ball to get klopp to the club but that he most likely is Real Madrid bound! So no, i will take your for it, lets keep Brendan (NOT)
there really cannot be any relevant comparison between Klopp and Rodgers where Rodgers comes even remotely close to Klopp at pretty much every level – trophies, success, style of play, coaching, managing, building a team, having to deal with his best players being picked off etc.
Actually it’s dickheads like you Mido who have chosen to support the club from thousands of miles away and think they have a sense of entitlement because it costs a lot of money then rant and rave on the internet that make us a laughing stock. You are the ultimate reactionary shite modern fan and you’ve only been at it for a few years. I want this, I want that. The football club is an extension of the people and the city and you have no clue about any of them.
Careful Dan, he’s a hardcore red who travels the world with the club.. And he may go all CAPS LOCK on you..!
Seriously, nail on head. The Internet age has been a nightmare for LFC, we truly embarrass ourselves.
We have never won the PL. only come close twice.
The sooner people wake up to this fact and/ or fuck off the better. We have no right to win it and very little suggests we should be in the top four. Not negative, just the way it is in this modern business model driven day of football..!
Swapping managers every time our teddies land on the floor only to start another five year plan that fails after we don’t win the league in the second or third years is not the answer imho.
Brendenial Delusions
Yeah been to anfield like 900 times in my life and have a flat in Liverpool but know nothing about the city, you’re the only dickhead a pathetic rasist looser…I am 40 and supported liverpool for longer than both of you have probably lived…I can’t understand how anyone wants this failiure in charge…Bore off and dont talk about me like you know me you piece of human garbage calling me names…Nonsesical garbage, both of you are unable to comprehend that it’s your likes the sheepole who follow every word anyone says without being able to think for yourselves who have brought this club down to the level of Saints and Everton ffs…You are used to mediocrity! Assholes! Most Liverpool supporters want the fraud out and you are in the minority you ignorant rasist fucks!
what a complete parasite of a man you are dan! people like you are dumb fucks, like liverpool would be what it is today because of the people who live in the city, only a god damn RETARD thinks that with Liverpool having like 300-400 million supporters world wide, go back to your cave you monkey!
what a complete parasite of a man you are dan! people like you are dumb *****, like liverpool would be what it is today because of the people who live in the city, only a god damn RETARD thinks that with Liverpool having like 300-400 million supporters world wide, go back to your cave you *****
Dan = Cretin
We should all have a group hug. We all have different opinions about how the club should be run but it’s difficult to know if anyone is right or wrong. It’s just down to personal interpretations. We shouldn’t be falling out over our different opinions.
I’m not trying to be righteous, I do it myself. Me and my mates have our own forum where over 100 messages get posted a day. I left it this week because I don’t understand what it’s all about anymore or what the point is. I feel I’m right, they feel they’re right but I’ve lost what the outcome of being right or wrong actually achieves. I feel I want to defend my opinions and they feel the same but it got too much. We all fell out but then when we meet up at the weekend it isn’t discussed. Even so, my view is, as mates we should be sticking together and less so but also, as Liverpool fans we should unite not divide.
There’s power in a union!
Peace and Love xx
Easy tiger. 900 games eh? Pretty impressive run that. I make that about every game at Anfield for the last 30 years. You would have thought in all that time you might have learnt not to be a complete gobshite.
only one who is gobshite is your dad because he wasn’t a wanker! And 900 was cleary an exaggeration give the lad a break, but since you are a rasist mongloid i bet you don’t understand anything other than, Liverpool for scousers only Bullcrap, go eat shit! What a bloody parasite
Alright Dan, maybe not 900 but atleast a couple of hundred and my first game was way back in 1986 so eat my shit!
anyway behave yourself looser..Because you are coming across as a knobhead who needs to slapped some sence into! I will gladly meet you next time iam in Liverpool to provide some sence and see if you dare to say that nonsense to my face :) I would fucking love it mate! Because someone who thinks like you is the reason we live in a retarded ass world like today! Go and grow up with your pathetic nonsense!
Spot on Dan.
rasist fuck, liverpool deserve much better than you guys…absolutley shocking pathetic logic..Bore off…Seriously done with this bullcrap….
One night in Istanbul at a theatre in Liverpool May the 27th 2015, cant see Rafa making a special appearance he may be busy winning another ” trofee” on the same night in Warsaw. Its stunning that the most outstanding and perfect solution to our problems is not even given a mention..surely no Media profile is required for this guy .
Rodgers out? Who will replace him? What players would also throw in the towel in the summer if he goes? Who would possibly come in with SG going and how much transfer funds? How long does the new manager get to rebuild? Will he fare better?
Instant success wanted? Yes.. Ahh you cant have it i’m afraid. Give the man a break.. 5th is about right i’d have to say when you weigh up the season.
Rodgers best man for job? I’d say so- 100%
I bet he’s got some lovely grass in his garden
and that is why you are the most clueless type of fan, the sheep that follow the word of Brenda like he is Jesus Christ..He is a looser and can’t finish his dinner let alone a project.. He promised the owners to win the league, not challenge for it, he promised them a challenge for the CL..Well PATHETIC campains in both…He promised at least a trophy, bottled it twice.. And after been given 100+ million £ and loosing out on CL revenue, + sponsorship money etc. etc. if you think he is 100% the man for the job you seriously need to get yourself checked, i think you are suffering from Brendenial Delusions! He is 0% the right man for the job.. Dont bother discussing really lad, i will list 50 reasons that are sackable offences if his job is reviewed from a buisness prespective..
HE BOUGHT DEJAN LOVREN FOR 20 MILLION TO REPLACE WAIT FOR IT, our BEST STRONGEST DEFENDER SAKHO. He is a clueless joke and 179 goals conceded in 102 goals says it all…BR is 100% the right man for the job, joke of the century! I congratuale you.. BRENDENIAL DELUSIONS
It’s not his garden, it’s Steven Gerrard’s…
Awful article. Total waste of time reading it. And the analogy isn’t really all that fitting, or at all necessary when discussing this subject.
Look at what Ferguson did with Aberdeen, beating Madrid in the final of a European cup. Clough. Mourinho. Look at what they did at the beginning of their careers, before they were known as top managers. They had an eye for a player and a ferocious will to win. They didn’t lose the games they knew would be pivotal to their future success. Brendan Rodgers versus Tim Sherwood. This is it. Career-defining. The Liverpool manager HAS to win this game. He has to pull out the stops before and during this game to win it. That he was out-managed and out-hungered says it all for me. Too many failures – Aspas, Borini, Allen, Assaidi, Alberto, Mignolet, Lambert, Lallana, Markovic, Lovren, Balotelli. Can’t spot a player. Can’t win the games he has to win. Nice guy, if prone to spouting BS. Shouldn’t be the manager of LFC.
Spot on Matt.3 seasons is more than enough time to judge a manager.For me he’s a guy who will play good football (not this season though) but ultimately never achieve anything.I can’t remember a Liverpool manager with such a poor record in big games & the main reason for that is his tactics.
If you look at the big games in the 3 seasons we’ve played:
Man Utd played 7 f 7 a 10
Chelsea. 7 f 6 a 11
Arsenal. 7 f 11 a 15
Man city 6 f 11 a 12
So that’s 27 games (23 in league,1 fa cup & 3 in carling cup) we’ve scored 35 conceded 48.
This is the number 1 reason why we won’t win anything with Rodgers.he just can’t set up a team that defends well.3 seasons with a host of different cb partnerships but conceding close to 2 per game in the bigger games & to win trophies you’re going to have win some big games somewhere along the line.
Agreed.
Cold hard facts, plus one strong rumour;-
Rodgers has failed to meet any of the ‘bottom line’ criteria set out by FSG for 2014-15;
He has spent a gross £216 million pounds to little effect;
he is tactically naive;
he criticises players publicly;
he blames the ‘transfer committee’ when players don’t perform;
he ‘cold-shoulders’ players who perform admirably when he is forced to play them (eg Sakho, Lucas);
he persists with playing people out of position;
he substitutes like for like when his lineup struggles;
he substitutes young players who need confidence boosting while persisting with non- or poorly-petforming players (Markovic and Lovren);
he has lost a considerable proportion of the support base, perhaps even a majority;
FSG sacked KD when he had met some of their criteria after taking over a club in crisis and doing do in half the time Rodgers has been in the job, and had a supportive, even adoring, fan base.
Rumour; Klopp would take the job.
Wish – RAFA would take the job.
at least you are awake and know what is going on…
One fact that can’t be disputed is that Mido couldn’t hack it in the Premier League. I just looked up his record on Wikipedia to remind myself how shit he was.
You should google Casadei, it seems our Mr Hardcore has a personality disorder..
or maybe i live in a flat with 3 others? mongloid!
So you’re a 40 year old fella, who lives in a flat in Liverpool with three other fella’s and has been to 900 games..?
Lots of questions to be asked…
You live with purple aki by any chance..?
I’m starting to warm to the sheer mentalness of if all to be honest. I reckon they/he would be a great pint. Who knows what’s gonna happen.
Mido the player was gob awful and an embaressing Pro..
Casadei was an italitan player in the 80s! Hilarious though
And you and Mido both misspell ‘rasist (sic)’ the same way.
Could the shite Egyptian and no-mark Italian be related by any chance?
Mido- you do a great job of making assumptions of Brendan, “he bottled it”… but it seems you are laying no blame at the players for our faltering season? You also make no suggestions of who could replace him and do a better job?
A clueless fan and a sheep… ? Make some unbiased points and some suggestions rather than jumping on the Rodger’s out bandwagon with the rest of the ‘instant success’ brigade.
This is football after all.. Wigan beating Man City in the FA cup final wasn’t supposed to be how the story was written.. but guess what you can plan, plan and plan some more in football but there are no guarantees.
When he bought Lovren who did you want instead (at that time not in hindsight)?
List 50 sack-able offences from a business perspective… well in! Solutions then? …
Rodgers is a decent enough manager, though he’s no Sir Alex (who is), no Wenger, no Jose, nor even LVG, and should be given another year. Liverpool’s problem is the transfer committee. Brilliant work keeping Suarez an extra year, but pathetic handling of Stevie. Likewise the committee is to blame for all these losers paid for with the Suarez money.
If your girlfriend keeps shouting at you for those cupboards over and over again, and nothing changes… Then it is time to move on.
If you keep doing the same, you will keep getting the same, as they say.
It worries me deeply to see Rodgers keep making the same mistakes year in and year out.
For us, those cupboards left open, are:
– A lack of tactical nous
– Poor game management/ability to change/influence a game in play
– Lack of consistency (as long as we keep losing to the Hulls of this world, we are never going to win anything)
– Bottling it against the big dogs
I wonder if some of these can be changed at all (tactical nous – maybe take up chess playing Rodgers?).
If you take away the incredibly good fortune to inherit one of the world’s top3 players, I don’t really think we have moved forward as such or are any better now than when Rodgers took over in any of these problem areas.
Can we live with those cupboards being perennially left open? Can you live with Liverpool being in the range of 5-8 with a muted cup run thrown in here and there?
I can’t. Will it change? I don’t think so. “When you keep doing as you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting as you’ve always gotten.”
That’s why I personally say, this isn’t working, and I doubt it ever will. Enough.
Mido the pilot. Casadei co-pilot. Must have been!